A Nigerian woman currently living in the United Kingdom has shared the emotional toll of relocating abroad without her husband, despite saying she would still support others to “japa” (relocate) if given the opportunity.
The woman, who chose to remain anonymous, moved to the UK in 2023, joining the over 1.5 million Nigerians who left the country that year. While she expressed deep longing for her husband, she maintains no regrets about her decision to relocate.
A Costly Journey
“We didn’t travel together,” she said. “It’s just my husband and I as a family for now, but I had to make the move alone.”
Breaking down the expenses involved in her relocation, she revealed they spent approximately £13,000 on tuition fees, and another £2,000 covering visa processing, healthcare surcharge, tuberculosis testing, biometrics, and other related costs. Her flight cost ₦750,000, and with the exchange rate at ₦1,100 to the pound at the time, the total amounted to about ₦17.25 million.
In addition to this, she had to present a proof of funds showing roughly ₦12 million in her bank account — a requirement, though not an expense.
Why She Left
She cited Nigeria’s worsening security situation and limited global mobility as some of the major reasons for leaving. “We made this move for the future of our children,” she said. “And yes, it has been worth every sacrifice.”
A professional swimming instructor in Nigeria, she continues to work in the same field in the UK.
Emotional Toll
Reflecting on the most challenging part of her journey so far, she said, “What hurts the most is being away from my husband. Due to the UK’s new immigration policy effective from January 1, 2024, international students can no longer bring dependents with them. My master’s programme started the same day the policy kicked in.”
A Beautiful New Life
Despite the emotional struggle, she appreciates the beauty of her new environment. “Wales is stunning. The natural scenery is incredible, and I’m excited to explore more parts of the UK.”
While she is open to returning to Nigeria for family or business reasons, she is clear about one thing: “If I had the resources, I’d help others relocate without hesitation.”
